Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened !

Pet BereavementIt’s with a heavy heart that I sit at the computer today and type this blog.

Back in April of this year I was contacted by Cuca the Cocker Spaniel all the way from Lisbon Portugal, a lady that I never actually got to meet, but felt like she was a sister from another litter.

You can read what Cuca sent me & my reply at this link

Yesterday I learned that Cuca made the journey that we will all have to make someday, & peacefully crossed the Rainbow Bridge.

Now I know as well as the next canine or human what an unbelievably difficult time this is for all that are left this side of the bridge.  You see over 3 years ago I had to say goodbye to my soul mate Dempsey, a half brother that I took under my wing from the day he joined my household, and I still miss him terribly.

Back then I wasn’t blogging or felt experienced enough to impart with my knowledge by way of a canine agony aunt, but my humans wrote a small piece about Dempsey which I know helped them tremendously with their grieving. You can read them same at this link

I know that anybody reading this is a lover of us canines, and therefore feel the loss the same way as losing any other family member, 2 legs or more. Unfortunately not all humans see it this way, and can’t understand why the owner of a pet that has recently crossed the bridge, could be so upset. They might even be heard to mutter “Sure it was only a dog”

What they fail to understand is that when humans return from wherever it is they go to for most of the daylight hours, we are the ones that are waiting to welcome them with a wagging tail and excitement as if we’ve never seen them before. No matter what kind of day the human has had, this welcome home can lift even the darkest mood. Putting a smile on a person’s face, is something I believe we are second to none at.

In honour of Cuca, I’d like to say to her humans, that grieving for their loss is 100% natural and the reaction of some people / colleagues can make the already unbelievably difficult experience even more painful.

Take it from me, the emotions that you are feeling are totally normal, and you should allow yourself time to feel whatever way it is you need to feel.

As I mentioned above, one of the many things that helped in the early days of my humans grieving process 3 years ago, was putting pen to paper about their loss and sharing details of the life they shared together. There are plenty of people out there that are fully aware of how you are feeling right now, so continue to share your emotions with these like minded people. They will help you along this difficult road, after all that’s what friends are for.

You are at a very delicate stage in your life right now and it is very important that you take care of yourself body & soul.

I know you & Cuca had 13 fantastic years, and the void that she has left behind can never be replaced. You know that right to the very end you did the very best by her, repaying her for the love, loyalty and companionship that you shared together, something that the people that say “Sure it was only a dog” couldn’t even begin to comprehend.

Now she has gone to share her love with all the other dogs at Rainbow Bridge.

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened!

In memory of Cuca,

Doris Dachshund

Email: [email protected]

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